Friday, August 16, 2013

For Women


I have developed close friendships these past couple of years. Something I had not been able to do in the past for several reasons. This article is not to discuss those reasons, but to write about one of the things I have realized. Many of us are wounded and hurting. Even those who appear to have it all together.    

In ancient times, we had the guidance of the mature women from the culture to guide us as we became women and then afterwards. The support of the wiser older women involved teaching us
about what it meant to be a woman. How to care, protect and love ourselves. Learn to listen to our intuition in all matters; relationships, child caring, marriage, friendships, etc.  In modern and industrial societies, most of us are pretty much on our own.   
                                                                                 
Some of us were raised by wounded mothers. They may look like women on the outside, but on the inside they are broken little girls. Physically they are able to assist giving birth to a child and caring for one. But mentally, emotionally and spiritually, many are inadequate. The cycle of wounded children continues on and on.

Some clues that you may have been a product of a wounded mother and therefore wounded yourself.

1.Extreme jealousy towards women who follow their passion and creative talents.
2.Gossip about other women with the intention of making them look bad.
3.If you tend to go overboard on achievements like getting three PH.D's, getting involved in too many time consuming and/or money wasting projects or activities, taking on a huge quest like sky diving or climbing a gigantic mountain.                                                                                      
4. You feel your children must be perfect, little to no tolerance for uniqueness. Especially if your children are too different from what your family perceives as good.
5. Afraid to admit weakness, fear or imperfection.
6.Masquerading as someone you are not in order to be accepted by your family, culture or society in spite of the fact that your true self is being suppressed and ignored.
7. Keeping busy at all times; over working, time wasting busyness, excessive TV watching, spending too much time with low energy people.
8. Having addictions with food, alcohol, drugs, etc.

There is a way to heal and to stop the cycle of raising broken offspring. This is especially important for mothers with daughters. But it is also a huge benefit for all other women. Even if you do not have children nor intend to have any. Don't forget that we all have an inner child. Most of us have ignored her long enough. If you'd like to start the process on healing, please contact me at carbajalzulma@gmail.com