If you want dating to rock:
- Work on your self-esteem. Know your worth with or without a man.
- Take care of your needs. Do not expect another person to fix your life.
- Go into a relationship as a whole person ready to give love. Not as a needy, desperate, clingy person.
- Hang out with inspiring, caring and loving friends. People see who your friends are to determine who you are.
- Do not say negative things about other people. It's a turn off to men especially when women put down another woman.
- Heal your emotional baggage. We all have some issues to heal and will not ever be completely done. But if you are a total emotional mess you will be a turn off to men.
- Don't be a people pleaser. Women tend to get carried away in this area, then the men think that these women are auditioning to be a girlfriend or a wife. As a result the men head for the hills.
- Avoid dating the wrong men with serious character flaws. You are just wasting your time.
- Date men you connect with on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level, not just on a physical level. It may be fun for a while, but a total waste of time.
- Date men who bring out the best of you. Some people just don't get along. I remember once going out on a date with a person whose friends thought he was hilarious. Well for some reason when we met, we just could not stop fighting. About dumb stuff too. We completely clashed.
- Carve out time for dating, but don't jump through hoops. You need to maintain your self-care, health, and keep up with work.
- Take things slow. Do not allow yourself to get prematurily attached. I saw a cartoon in a book once in which a man shows up at the door to pick up his date and she is wearing a wedding dress. It's was funny. But the truth is, some women do jump the gun and spend much time daydreaming about the future instead of paying attention to what is going on in the present.
- Don't fall in love with potential. People rarely change.
- Avoid dating men who live too far from you. It will eventually be a drain for both of you.
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"Being desperate, a universal turn off is caused by having too many unfulfilled emotional needs. Love seems to work out best when two parties involved come together as whole people looking to add to each other's lives. This is in contrast with being needy predators looking to latch on to someone. The best strategy for attracting and keeping love is to become emotionally balanced before entering into a new relationship. On the other hand, being an immediate emotional or financial drain on a new relationship partner can cause a quick, unannounced witdrawal."
-Steve Nakamoto
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