Goals

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step. "


-Martin Luther King Jr.


Most of us start with a big list of goals and resolutions on the first day of the year, but by the end of the year we have not accomplished much if anything of what we set out to do. There are many reasons behind this problem. Below I list what some of those challenges are and I offer solutions on how to solve them.

• Have no time. Most of us are already overbooked with things to do. We are full of responsibilities and commitments that we do not really have much time to pursue new goals and desires. Solution: Start simplifying your life. Get rid of activities that are not benefitting you and are just time wasters. One example of a time wasting activity is watching too much TV. Some people use TV as a method to relax after a hectic day. I could understand that, I have done it myself on occasion. But most of what is shown on TV is not beneficial (unless you watch PBS). If you need to relax after a long day, try taking a walk instead. For those trying to get healthier or lose weight as one of their goals, you kill two birds with one stone.
• Stop spending so much time with energy drainers. I know a couple of people who are frequently discouraged about not being able to accomplish their goals because they say they do not have time. But what I have found out is that these people spend way too much of their time with energy drainers or with people that are full of drama, gossip and negativity. Solution: You need to ask yourself why you long to be around these type of people. You have control over who you spend your time with so you must desire to spend time with energy vampires if you are doing so. Some people are very afraid of what they will find out if they go within to see their own shortcomings which are keeping them stuck so they focus their time and energy on someone else's drama. Other people are so bored with their own lives they seek out drama and ofcourse they find it. The more time you spend with energy drainers the less time you have for your goals.
• Getting overwhelmed with your goals that you end up quitting before you even start. It has happened to me quite a bit in the past. I am the type of person that wants it "all", not "either/or". So there have been times where I have gone in circles, one goal is sabotaging my efforts on another goal. Solution: If you are the "I want it all" type of person, like myself, take baby steps on each of your goals. Let's say your goals are to lose weight, meet your life partner, spend time with friends and family, and find a job you truly love doing. Your first couple of weeks might be spent adding walks four times a week (for the losing weight goal). Start healing past wounds from relationships (to meet life partner goal). Schedule one time in advance to spend with a family member or a friend (for more time with family and friends goal). Begin thinking about what your passions and interests are (for finding a job you truly love doing goal). It may seem as though you have not accomplished much in the first two weeks, but as time goes and you do a little at a time, by the end of the year you would be much further than if you did not start at all. Or if you go full throttle, as I have done in the past, you will get so overwhelmed that you will quit at the beginning.

For more solutions on how to reach goals please contact me. The first session is free and it may be all you need in order to get you going in the right direction.





"Everyone thinks that the principle thing to a tree is the fruit, but in point of fact, the principal thing to it is the seed."

- Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
(1844-1900)