- Don't let present challenges bring you down and keep you from pursuing your goals. I agree that when you are putting out fires sometimes you end up being too drained to think about pursuing goals and dreams. However, I have learned that in order to move beyond the challenges you can't let go of your aspirations. When you lose faith in yourself and in accomplishing your dreams, you have less energy to enjoy in life. Which keeps you stuck where you are. It also makes you develop a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness.
- Learn to use your challenges and transform them into something positive. We all go through obstacles from time to time, they are part of life. But are you going to let hard times get the better of you or are you going to make some lemonade from the lemons? I read a story in Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book, Bad Childhood Good Life , about a woman complaining to her mother about her hard life. She was tired and wanted to give it all up. The mother then took the daughter to the kitchen and put three pots with water and food items to boil. One of them had and egg, the second one had carrots, and the third pot had coffee beans. After half an hour of boiling the items, the mother asked the daughter what she had learned. The daughter did not understand what she was referrring to. The mother explained,"..each of the three foodstuffs had been exposed to the same challenge: boiling water. The carrots went in strong and sturdy and then turned to mush. The egg went in fragile and ulitmately turned hard. And the coffee beans changed the hot water around them-producing a wonderful aroma and a delight to the taste buds. 'So, my darling daughter, when the hour is the darkest and the trials are the greatest, how do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot that loses its strenght? Are you the egg that becomes tough and hardened? Are you the coffee bean that influences the universe in a positive, hopeful way?'
- Get a support group. Often times when you are ready for something new or to grow the people who you least expect hold you back. Although most of them have good intentions, they still keep you from being the best you can be. I recommend you start finding like minded friends to help you through your new journey. These people will give you higher energy advice and help you think outside of the box. My other recommendation is to get a Transition Specialist, because when you are stuck you need someone who could give you an objective opinion in order to get out of the situation you are in an move towards your desires. The Transition Specialist will push you when you have gotten in your comfort zone or are avoiding to do something because of fear. The other reason I recommend that you get a Transition Specialist is that once you have achieved a certain amount of success and growth, you no longer relate to your old relationships, and you could feel pretty lonely. You may ask them for advice, but it could be fearful, biased, negative and destructive. Not necessarily because they want to hurt you, but because they do not know any better. People who are serious about being their best and living their best life, surround themselves with the a positive support group that will help them through their journey.
"Be more in charge of the people you surround yourself with and invest yourself in. Choose groups and individuals who help you be and do your best, not wallow in negativity. Only hang around people who for the most part- nobody's perfect-live the kind of life which you aspire. Surround yourself with good people, even if they are not your family. Avoid bad influences like the bubonic plague."
- Dr. Laura Shlessinger
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