To Manifest, Self Love First

"The shift in perception happens not by changing who you are but by seeing who you are and shining it forth. If you were able to exhibit the full grandeur of your being, your whole life would be a romance, one long love story dedicated to ecstasy and joy." -Deepak Chopra


In many of my articles I have written about the importance of self-eteem and self-love. In this article I will compile the reasons why self-esteem and self-love are so important.

When you truly love yourself:

• You go after your dreams. You honor what your higher self desires.
• You do not allow family or friends to make you feel bad.
• You attract romantic partners who love you like you love yourself.
• You are not codependent or humiliate yourself in order to get the approval or love of others.
• You never over give sacrificing your own well being, especially when you are not getting anything in return from others.
• You spend time with people who honor you and support you.
• You avoid spending time with superficial, selfish, self centered people.
• You don't use food, drugs or alcohol to slowly kill yourself.
• You take care of your physical health as much as you can.
• You do not give in to the ego centered demands and the ego expectations of others.
• You treat yourself as though you would treat your best friend or a lover, if not better.

The above points are mostly for those who find themselves giving a whole lot to others and never seem to get anything back but criticism and bad treatment.  What I have learned is that in order to manifest the best of the best, you have to love yourself first and have a healthy self-esteem. For more information see my article Self-Esteem and The Law of Attaction 8/17/12.

This past weekend I spent some time listening to expert manifestors and I found it coincidental that the five speakers said that you need to love yourself first in order to manifest what you desire. Keep in mind that these speakers are rich if not millionaires. They coach people on how to become rich themselves. An expert said that one of her clients is a billionaire. Another expert mentioned that he is known as the self-growth coach who produces the most millionaires than any other coach out there. He sure charges a hefty fee and thousands of people from all over the world buy his products. So he must be good. Anyway, the one thing the expert manifestors had in common was that they all said that the key to manifesting money, a healthy life partner, and good experiences was to love and honor yourself first. 

However, I have said it the past and I will say it again. While self-love is good, being conceited, selfish and self centered is not. These behaviors and attitudes come from the ego. While authentic self-love comes from spirit and in knowing the truth of your eternal being.




"To love oneself is the beginning to a lifelong romance."
                                                           -Oscar Wilde

"I celebrate myself, I sing myself." - Walt Whitman

I will be putting out a book on self-love on 2/1/13. If you would like a sneak peak of my book please contact me at carbajalzulma@gmail.com